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What Is Dependence/Incompetence Schema?
This schema involves the belief that one is unable to handle everyday responsibilities in a competent manner without considerable help from others.
Common Signs
You might have this schema if you frequently experience:
- Relying excessively on others for decisions
- Feeling helpless when facing challenges alone
- Doubting your ability to handle practical tasks
- Seeking constant guidance and reassurance
- Avoiding adult responsibilities
Fictional Everyday Examples
Here are some common ways dependence/incompetence schema shows up in daily life:
- •Calling someone for help with tasks you could do yourself
- •Staying in relationships because you fear you can't manage alone
- •Avoiding responsibilities like finances or maintenance
Related Schemas
Compare this pattern with other possible explanations:
Source and scope
Definitions are paraphrased and examples are fictional, for educational use. Consult the International Society of Schema Therapy’s central concepts.
These signs are not diagnostic criteria. How we prepare our content.
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